As everyone prepares to celebrate the day of love (as cliché as it sounds, shouldn’t everyday be Valentine’s Day?), I just want to share a feel-good experience that I had recently.
After almost five years, I saw the guy I had a crazy crush on. Crush because looking at it from this angle, at this point in time, it only lasted 7 short months. I just laugh at how crazy I was with that guy.
I saw him again at a fun party I attended last Friday. I met his lovely wife, too. He married the same girl he fell in love with at the same time I had my silly crush on him. Long story short, it was a happy reunion. One friend said it is the best form of an ex-crush reunion scenario, and I totally agreed. He and I became closer after he knew and the way he “handled” the situation became my barometer of how an ideal “I don’t feel the same way” situation must be managed. I was wrong in thinking all men would do the same thing. He was awesome enough to be there. He made sure I knew what was happening so I can get the real picture, so I can realize for myself why it’s really not going to happen. He made it in a way that was never cruel. During that time (I was only 23, okay), I never once felt that not reciprocating your feelings is an embarrassing thing. I won’t go into the minute details* but it was so well-done, I got over him -it – so easily. As I said, it was what I expected other men would do but they didn’t. So in that way, he’s extraordinary.
We had been talking in little amounts even after all my crazy, juvenile crush. He was one of the first people who sent heartwarming thoughts when my dad died. We swapped Mar Roxas stories from time to time (none of which was off the record, thanks to Kris Aquino and Korina Sanchez). It’s not the sole reason, but her sister is one of my bestfriends in the office now.
When we hugged to greet each other, it felt great because it’s like I was welcoming an old friend. I am hoping for his happiness. I guess I have always done it since the very first morning I woke up and felt nothing of the romantic fluff anymore.
* For some crazy reason, I found this old post laughable in a cheesy kind of way. See, I was a drama queen even before 2008, Raft3r!
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I’m wishing all of you a happy day of hearts! Be happy that you are with someone and be happy that you are without. It’s just in the way you look at it, and frankly, in this era of separations, violent relationships, short-lived romances and the like, at the end of the day, be thankful that you are spared from any form of hurt. I guess I’m past the stage of thinking that not having a boyfriend is a sad thing. It’s better than having one just for the sake of having one (lalo na yung ginagastusan mo pa kahit ikaw yung babae, sorry, hahaha). After all, you can just do MOMOL and SeSeL naman. Friends with benefits, anyone? 🙂
But no, seriously, don’t listen to me. As my favorite line from Practical Magic goes, “Always throw spilled salt over your left shoulder, keep rosemary by your garden gate, plant lavendar for luck, and fall in love whenever you can.”
Happy Valentine’s Day!
MOMOL – Make out, make out lang
SeSeL – Sex-sex lang (I totally just made this up)